Fear of rejection-4 ways to beat it
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If you have a blog or are working a network marketing company or are otherwise involved in sales, one of the biggest stumbling blocks is fear of rejection.
Have you ever postponed or scrapped a blog post because you’re afraid of how people will view it?
Have you ever failed in network marketing because you’re afraid of showing your products or opportunity to others?
Have you ever tried to sell yourself as in a job interview or application and failed to get the job you want?
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First of all, let’s get this out of the way, it’s a perfectly normal emotion. Almost everyone suffers from it more or less. But people have different ways of dealing with it.
The most common way of dealing with the fear is to not put yourself into situations where you can be rejected. I call this the hermit method.
Don’t apply for jobs. Don’t be in social situations. Don’t talk to people. Basically you just lock yourself away.
The second way of dealing with the fear is denial. Make excuses for not succeeding by blaming someone else for your failure.
You might say to yourself, “I’m just not cut out to be a blogger so I won’t do it.”
For the network marketer, “This is a scam. They made promises to me and it’s not working like they said.”
For the job hunter, “The interviewer was a jerk. I could tell he didn’t like me right off the bat.”
A third way of dealing with fear is to recognize it and confront it.
You’d say to yourself, “I realize that fear is what’s keeping me from succeeding, so I’ll work through my fear and overcome it.”
Of course the third way is the only way a person will actually overcome a fear.
When I was a little girl I was bitten by a poisonous spider and almost died. I became so terrified of spiders that when my hair brushed against my back, I’d scream uncontrollably thinking there was a spider on me. I remember making my mother change my clothes because I was so afraid there were spiders in them.
But then we moved into an old house with stucco on the outside.
In the summer time, the house would get hot and to cool it off we’d hose down the stucco on the outside.
The problem was that when I turned the hose on the sides of the house, spiders crawled out of the stucco, lots of them.
So I began hosing the spiders out into the gutter and watched as they floated away.
Oddly enough, this activity empowered me over the spiders. I lost my irrational fear of them and no longer went into complete panic when saw one.[mlsp-cta campaign=”vidmarketingsecret” layout=”standard” align=”right”]
Spiders still are not my friends but I know I am bigger than they are and they don’t cause anxiety.
So I KNOW that people can overcome fear. It’s not something that has to control your life. You can overcome your fear of rejection.
Here are some tips to help you overcome your fear of rejection.
There was a book written by Frank Herbert called Dune. These are among my favorite novels and I’ve read them several times. In the book, there’s a group of women called Bene Gesserit who developed a litany against fear. It goes like this,
“I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
This is what I mean by using sheer will and determination.
So here were 4 ways to beat fear of rejection. I’m sure there are more ways. Just as I overcame my phobia of spiders, you can overcome your fears.
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