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Fear of Failure – 4 Ways to Beat It

Fear of Failure - 4 Ways To Beat It

Fear of Failure – 4 Ways to Beat It

Fear of rejection-4 ways to beat it

Fear of Failure - 4 Ways To Beat It

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If you have a blog or are working a network marketing company or are otherwise involved in sales, one of the biggest stumbling blocks is fear of rejection.

Have you ever postponed or scrapped a blog post because you’re afraid of how people will view it?

Have you ever failed in network marketing because you’re afraid of showing your products or opportunity to others?

Have you ever tried to sell yourself as in a job interview or application and failed to get the job you want?

Most likely, you fear rejection so much that it blocks your progress.[mlsp-cta campaign=”copywritingmastery” layout=”standard” align=”left”]

First of all, let’s get this out of the way, it’s a perfectly normal emotion. Almost everyone suffers from it more or less. But people have different ways of dealing with it.


 

The most common way of dealing with the fear is to not put yourself into situations where you can be rejected. I call this the hermit method.

Don’t apply for jobs. Don’t be in social situations. Don’t talk to people. Basically you just lock yourself away.


 

The second way of dealing with the fear is denial. Make excuses for not succeeding by blaming someone else for your failure.

You might say to yourself, “I’m just not cut out to be a blogger so I won’t do it.”

For the network marketer, “This is a scam. They made promises to me and it’s not working like they said.”

For the job hunter, “The interviewer was a jerk. I could tell he didn’t like me right off the bat.”


 

A third way of dealing with fear is to recognize it and confront it.

You’d say to yourself, “I realize that fear is what’s keeping me from succeeding, so I’ll work through my fear and overcome it.”

 

Of course the third way is the only way a person will actually overcome a fear.


 

When I was a little girl I was bitten by a poisonous spider and almost died. I became so terrified of spiders that when my hair brushed against my back, I’d scream uncontrollably thinking there was a spider on me. I remember making my mother change my clothes because I was so afraid there were spiders in them.

But then we moved into an old house with stucco on the outside.

In the summer time, the house would get hot and to cool it off we’d hose down the stucco on the outside.

The problem was that when I turned the hose on the sides of the house, spiders crawled out of the stucco, lots of them.

So I began hosing the spiders out into the gutter and watched as they floated away.

Oddly enough, this activity empowered me over the spiders. I lost my irrational fear of them and no longer went into complete panic when saw one.[mlsp-cta campaign=”vidmarketingsecret” layout=”standard” align=”right”]

Spiders still are not my friends but I know I am bigger than they are and they don’t cause anxiety.

So I KNOW that people can overcome fear. It’s not something that has to control your life. You can overcome your fear of rejection.


 

Here are some tips to help you overcome your fear of rejection.

  1. Realize that what you do is helping them. It’s not about you.
    1. What you say in your blog may inspire someone or help them in some way.
    2. Your products and marketing plan help people. Perhaps it will help people be healthier or more financially well-off.
    3. You have confidence that the company where you apply for a job would be a great place to work and that you have valuable skills to share.
  2. Surround yourself with success to overcome your fear of rejection.
    1. Read books on how to succeed. There are tons of them out there. In one of my earlier posts I posted a reading list that would be a good place to start.
    2. Hang out with successful people. Don’t know any? Join your local Chamber of Commerce and attend their events to get to know successful people.
  3. Learn new skills to give you more confidence.
    1. Read books or take classes to help you become a better writer and speaker.
    2. Attend Toastmasters group meetings and learn how to communicate. I know several people who have overcome extreme shyness by going to Toastmasters. Knowing how to communicate well gives you self-confidence and will help you overcome your fear of rejection.
  4. Be determined that you will overcome your fear of rejection.
    1. Sometimes just sheer will and determination can help.

There was a book written by Frank Herbert called Dune. These are among my favorite novels and I’ve read them several times. In the book, there’s a group of women called Bene Gesserit who developed a litany against fear. It goes like this,

“I must not fear.

Fear is the mind-killer.

Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.

I will face my fear.

I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.

Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

 

This is what I mean by using sheer will and determination.

So here were 4 ways to beat fear of rejection. I’m sure there are more ways. Just as I overcame my phobia of spiders, you can overcome your fears.

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9 Comments

  • Anita Hales

    March 28, 2016 at 11:54 am

    Fear of failure can really stop you in your tracks. Great tips.

      Anita Hales

      March 28, 2016 at 2:16 pm

      Yes it can. Thanks for the comments Mark.

  • Anita Hales

    March 28, 2016 at 1:05 pm

    Great post Anita…. I believe that action will cure a lot of fears… love what you gave here…. thanks for sharing all the value…

      Anita Hales

      March 28, 2016 at 2:15 pm

      Thanks Ron. Action does cure. Appreciate your comments.

    Anita Hales

    March 28, 2016 at 4:58 pm

    Great post Anita!

    My phone posture shifted when I put my focus on my people and not on myself

    Dr. Lisa

      Anita Hales

      March 28, 2016 at 8:37 pm

      I bet it did.

    Anita Hales

    March 28, 2016 at 8:45 pm

    Nice post, Anita! Unless our fear is overcome, we will always be doing things with lots of struggles that hinder our success. Conquering your greatest fear means winning. Thank you for sharing.

      Anita Hales

      March 29, 2016 at 7:30 am

      Yes indeed. Thanks Sherri.

    Anita Hales

    March 29, 2016 at 10:45 am

    Great post, fear is the made up thing we put in our heads and it can destroy us. Enjoyed reading you post.

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